Why is it that we grow up with these values but not reflect the same compassion on ourselves?
For me the catalyst, was the passing of my Father, he was only 60. It put life into perspective, and my need to feel fulfilled and find purpose was overwhelming. It became apparent that to do this I had to start from within.
Mindfulness lead me onto the path of self-compassion, who knew you could talk to yourself in such a kind empathetic way without feeling silly! I used to say things to myself like “get a grip, sort yourself out” and worse to be honest! … which never helped the situation and usually made me anxious or moody.
Learning to talk to myself with less judgement and more encouragement has changed my whole being. Now I’m, “it’s ok we are having a little blip, why are we feeling like this today?”, “ok, so were a little disappointed, what’s our options?”.
We are not perfect and that in its self is perfect for me, I have an awareness now that recognises the need for self-compassion. I choose to embrace me, let go of judgement, find comfort in knowing I am evolving and accepting my flaws gracefully. I am a work in progress. Understanding the importance of being compassionate to myself makes my life more relaxed; I can see it also reflected in my ability to see so much more in others.
Words by Rebecca James
Nutrition and Health Coaching Graduate and owner of The Wild Daisy
We all have a role to play in community health, the only question is how do we play this role? Through intelligent, evidence-based inquiry we can understand how to health coach to support others in taking on positive behaviour change.